The Unimportant

Reading my blogs is one thing. Believing what I have to say is something entirely different. So I'll start by saying this:

There are many things on this earth that are unimportant. Things that shouldn't even cross our minds. unfortunately, it isn't always the easiest task to filter out these things. Sometimes they just get to us. But in times like this we need to make room for a perspective change. Step away from the matter for a quick look at the positives and negatives associated and included in the matter.

Love is a beautifully tragic existence. Everything is good about it. But taken out of context and misused, it will become burdensome and bring regret like you've never felt before. Every person will experience love for someone or something before they die. There are several unimportant aspects in love:
1. The ability to recognize who loves who more.
2. Where it is going and what it "might" end up becoming.
3. Who loved who first.
4. What and how often love is expressed.
5. To what degree would the love be untainted.

The ability to recognize who loves who more instantly becomes a battlefield for arguing over who does more for the other companion. Thinking about where love is going and what it "might" end up being brings doubt and desperation for answers to problems within the relationship. This also becomes a battlefield for arguing. Who loved who first... really? I shouldn't even have to explain this one but I will anyways. Everyone has been brought up differently, everyone is their own person, and everyone thinks a different way. This also means that everyone falls in love at different times. The importance of love being expressed is a major thing. How often and what is being done should not be important. Being content with your love life brings a sense of connection and intimacy on both parts. And lastly, trying to uncover the extent of the love for the other companion is a treacherous path. This will bring doubt and fear into the relationship. Asking things that start with "would you still love me if..." or "would you love me less if." And to add onto that, the word "if" should be avoided at all costs. It is the most dangerous two letter word next to the abbreviated word "Dr."

I'm here to help... not to screw you all over. So listen or block it all out, don't say I didn't tell you so.

-quixotic-